Is there anything in this world that can make you feel as good as you feel having a laugh with a dear friend, a loved one or even a stranger?
Money, power, success, and wealth mean almost nothing when you have no one to share them with, does it? What a splendid news that is! Not all of us can be rich or powerful in the materialistic sense of these words. However, we can all have amazing relationships, and that is the ultimate happiness in life; anything else, it is just a bonus. Do you agree?
If you are surrounded by people you love and love you back, you can be living in a shack, surviving on bread and salt and you are happy. On the other hand, living in a mansion, having plenty of money and food, if you are alone or surrounded by people that don’t care about you and don’t love you, you are unhappy.
1. You feel you are the only one putting love, attention and time in the relationship
Any relationship is a two-way street. You give something; you receive something else in return. If you are the only one giving and giving and giving, never receiving anything, you are alone in that relationship.Your attention, time, love and energy are wasted on something that doesn’t exist. Why? Because a relationship, by definition, needs at least two parties to be involved.
2. Your voice is too rarely heard, and your opinions and views are not taken into consideration
We, humans, are a social creature. We love to get involved, to share, to collaborate, to be useful. Not just that we love those things, but we need them too. Therefore, if you feel left out, put aside, used not useful, maybe, it is time to move on. There are 7 billion people on this planet, and if you don’t get along too well with one of them, there are plenty more to choose.
3. You are exhausted because the relationship feels more like a war zone than a place of comfort
Some relationships are worth saving. Therefore, do your best to make it work. But if your best is not enough, maybe, it is time to move on and don’t blame yourself for it.
It is not your fault and maybe not the other person either. It could be that the chemistry between the two of you is not compatible. Remember that two amazing and beautiful individuals don’t always form an amazing and beautiful relationship. However, you both deserve to live in peace and harmony. You deserve stability, comfort, safety and protection.
4. You are not accepted as you are
We strive to be perfect when we don’t feel loved. When you feel loved, you feel accepted too. You know that your imperfections, mistakes, and shortcomings are tolerated because, you see? Love makes us blind and with good reason: no one is perfect. You are born to like and appreciate who you are and who you can become. You want to improve and better yourself every day. Don’t you? You are, already pushing yourself to grow and evolve and because of it, it can be painful when someone that you love is bullying you into changing; especially, changing into somebody that you are not, nor want to be.
It is not your fault and maybe not the other person either. It could be that the chemistry between the two of you is not compatible. Remember that two amazing and beautiful individuals don’t always form an amazing and beautiful relationship. However, you both deserve to live in peace and harmony. You deserve stability, comfort, safety and protection.
4. You are not accepted as you are
We strive to be perfect when we don’t feel loved. When you feel loved, you feel accepted too. You know that your imperfections, mistakes, and shortcomings are tolerated because, you see? Love makes us blind and with good reason: no one is perfect. You are born to like and appreciate who you are and who you can become. You want to improve and better yourself every day. Don’t you? You are, already pushing yourself to grow and evolve and because of it, it can be painful when someone that you love is bullying you into changing; especially, changing into somebody that you are not, nor want to be.
6. You are drowning into fulfilling the other person’s needs
Altruism gives us one of the highest pleasure in life… until you drown in attending only other people’s needs with total disregard and consideration for yours. As I’ve said, a relationship is a two-way street; it is like a well-synchronized dance. Listen, it might happen that the other person is not asking, nor is expecting you to forget about yourself. It might happen that you are doing it voluntarily out of fear, guilt or the way you’ve been brought up. If that is the case, change your behavior, put yourself first sometimes, see what happens and then decide: are you happy to stay or is it time to move on?
7. The other person doesn’t validate your dissatisfaction about how things are going between the two of you
“Why are you unhappy? I’m very happy; everything is just fine. I don’t know what more you want. Everything is just fine.” When a partnership is not going well, doesn’t mean it is not going well for both parties. The person who gets more out of the relationship will say “I’m happy, we have no problem or issues.” They will resist any change or even attempts to talk things through because that might lead to destabilizing the status quo “I’m perfectly happy and content”. Make yourself heard, listened and understood. You, your happiness and well-being are as important as are for the other person.
(By Wealthy Gorilla Staff)
